Wow--Thanks, Bill and Puppy. I appreciate the validation. I agree, it's pearls before swine at this point, but every now and then I wonder if I can cut thru the denial. And wow, that would make me supermama, wouldn't it! I was also hoping he'd see the caring between the lines, but he's a really tough nut. \:\)

Sometimes it's good to examine one's motivation, which is what you've made me do. Not really trying to stir him up, just give him access to my wonderfulness and supreme insight. Sigh.

M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012