Peace, I said a few weeks ago that I was through posting; but, I love telling my "story" and couldn't resist posting it here. My story is no secret here on the board. It has caused controversy at times, which has saddened me; but, it is a story w/ a happy ending...well, the best chapters are just beginning!
My exH dropped the bomb in June of 06. After which I found out about the many different women in his life. In Sept. of 06, after many months of hell, I told him to leave. I was hurt, angry, and scared; but, with the help of my pastor, friends, family, and, most importantly, God, I gradually began to pick up the pieces of my life. It took me a couple of months and many counseling sessions to realize that I had not been happy in a long time. I realized that I had become co-dependent on my exH and that he was not a loving husband, nor was my marriage a loving marriage. For the first time ever, my eyes were opened to many things.....things my friends had been trying to tell me for years. In Nov. 06, I decided I was no longer interested in saving my marriage. I had become a stronger and better person...and I had done it w/out him.
On Christmas Day 06, I made a new friend. This person was someone who I could be serious w/ and someone I could relax and have fun w/. We developed feelings for one another and decided to see what might come of our friendship. A couple of weeks into Jan. 07, my exH decided he wanted to reconcile. But, he wanted to do it slowly, w/out moving home right away. My "friend" and I broke off all contact (his decision) and my exH and I began seeing each other. The day after Valentine's Day, we spent the day together and discussed plans for our future. He wanted to come home. That evening I got an anonymous phone call stating that my exH was living w/ his boss lady (he had always told the kids and I that he was living w/ a guy he worked w/). I confronted him, he admitted it, but said he wanted to come home. He said all the right words and offered to do all the right things. He came home...for that night. He left the next day and went back to his OW. I knew we were done...more importantly, I knew I was done.
A friend of mine was worried about me (because during all this, I also lost my mother) and contacted my "friend". He e-mailed me. I texted him the next day. We began talking again. We met for the first time in March of 07 and have been together ever since. I filed for LS and in Sept of 07, my exH filed for D. It was final Nov. 13, 07. (In my state, you have to wait one year and one day after the date of separation to file for d.)
As of June 28th, my "friend", is now my husband. My husband is Bworl! For those of you who do not know Bworl, he is a wonderful, loving, caring man, and a devoted father. And, I love him dearly!
Peace, my story may not be a story of a reconciled marriage. But, it is a success story nonetheless. Not just because I found love and marriage again; but, because I found myself, again!
I do NOT share my story here to encourage anyone to walk away from their m. I share my story to tell others that they will be ok. There is light at the end of the tunnel. And, they will be happy again...maybe w/ their S, maybe w/ a new love. The important thing is that they trust in God and in themselves. That they dig down in themselves and find strength and happiness in who they are. That they are someone they can look in the mirror and face each day w/ a smile on their face and be proud.
Some of the many things that I learned through my ordeal was that I do not need someone else to make me happy. My happiness comes from w/in. I cannot control what someone else thinks, says, or does; but, I can/do control myself. And, I learned that I am God's child and no matter what, HE loves me.
So, I apologize for the long post; but, this is my story....can't wait to see what the next chapters bring!
