I just read through your posts....you had this whole DB thing figured out from the get go.
-You have your act together -You are in control of your emotions -You managed to get your police officer husband to open up to you and just validated -You have made changes in you -Your confidence and peace just come thorugh in your posts
My only advice to you is just continue to play it cool, be yourself, have fun. Your H wants to come back....he just wants to figure himself out first so he doesn't hurt you anymore...he sounds like a good man who is human.
As far as your anniversary, I would get him something low key (something to do with one of his hobbies and is not mushy). I would also invite him over for dinner or BBQ (even less pressure). Make it a fun evening. I think you should do something because it is saying, you still value your M despite all he has apologized for.
You are in a much better emotional position than I was in my sitch for my anniversary. Mine was 2 days before we were going to sell our home and sep. I still made dinner reservations. She said I don't want to go out and celebrate. I said, who said anything about celebrating, I figured we could go out and get a break from all this packing and the kids and have a nice meal. Initially she said no, I said that's fine I can go myself...I'm getting a good meal. She went and we had a good time. I think you are in a much better position...particularly since he recently asked you out to dinner and youhad that quality hot tub time.....oh I wished I had one of those.
Have a great weekend! You are doing fantastic!
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
