Guilty as charged.. I am a WAW.

[Bridgestone]

Bridgestone,

I have a couple of questions and please don't take offence to them. Just need to understand a little better.

1) If you left and your H is being so reluctant to change why are you working so hard to save the M?

I left because it became physically & emotionally unsafe for me to stay and work on the M. He went to a few counseling sessions for his anger after I left and then stopped & has not been back. And he has made some changes that have been enough for me to quit walking away, yet not consistantly or regularly enough to walk back into the M.

2) Do you still love him or are you trying to figue that out before you call it quits?

I love him as a person, I don't have the intimacy physically, emotionally or mentally with him that I want with a partner. We have both changed and grown apart. His anger has driven a wedge between us physically & emotionally, his lack of pursuits outside of his job has kept us from growing together mentally.

3) Why does he feel that you were/ are verbably abusive?

I think you read that quote I posted about the Counseling session wrong.
He was admitting to being verbally abusive.

4) Does he do anything other than work? Play a sport, hang with friends, have any type of fun?

nope- male friends of his, were spouses of the female friends of mine. They have little in common other than their wives were friends.

Xbox360, surf the internet for products & services related to his business as well as some porn.

5) Do you guys have any fun together or is it always tense when your together?

We have found some ways to relax and have fun in some activities in the past few months. Wine tasting, bike rides, geocaching, comedy club.

6) Has he always been angry and controlling or has it happened slowly over the course of the M?

He has always had a 'temper' and yes he has always been controlling. It has gotten much worse over the past 7 years as I have been pursuing my graduate degree and have asked him for support around the house and involvement with the kids.

7) What do you do for fun on your own?

Bike, geo-cache, play online poker & cribbage, go for walks, foster dogs, learn new things for DIY projects in my house, go for rides in my car, enjoy music, plan vacations, talk with friends, spend time with my kids,

Did you get the book from Amazon yet? Just want to know what you think about it.

It's due to be delivered on Monday. Money is a bit tight right now so I did not use the 2nd day shipping option, so it was shipped from 125 miles away and taking a week!

Again just trying to get a feel for where your at and he sounds like me over a year ago and it might help me understand my W position a little better.

Have a great weekend, I'm off to NY to see "Wicked" with W and kids.

Thanks for asking and for your insight. I hope Wicked & the trip is good. I'm hoping to get tickets for my D & I when it comes to our state late next year.
Peace
Bridge