While standing we are not supposed to be stagnant. We are supposed to pull closer to God and make the changes in our lives and selves that help us to become closer to Him. We read God's Word and apply His Word to our lives which creates changes within us. Those are positive changes which will enhance our marriages when our spouses come home. Naturally there are some people who will find the need to make more changes than others but the primary goal is that we learn to trust God with our problems. We learn to be forgiving, understanding, caring, love unconditionally. We learn to apply God's priniciples of how a wife or husband should be and how a house should be kept, how children should be raised and finances run according to God's Word. We learn to help others in need and NOT to create an idol of our marriage restoration.
Then we get to that place we are stronger and we no longer let the fluctuations in our spouses make us upset because we are trusting God to handle it. We are happier people and God's love glows from within us. Our spouses' see that transformation and are drawn back home because they become attracted to the peace, serenity, and love they find in their spouse they walked away from. They are curious and want that same peace, serenity and love that they have not found when they look around at this new path they took.
Standing is NOT supposed to mean stand still and do nothing, it means to stand on the Rock of Jesus Christ. Trusting God for restoration while we make the necessary changes God wants us to make to draw closer to Him.
