Your very welcome. It is very hard, especially in the beginning. But rest assured, your H will see the changes. It will not happen overnight. H and I have been separated almost 10 months, and I have really been implementing this for the last two-three months. He is just starting to see changes.
It really is about finding yourself. Right now, all you think about is the M, and the S. You will. It's very normal. It is normal for the WAS to go hot and cold. I am still dealing with that. The key is when they are cold to leave them alone. Trust me, it took me a LONG time to figure that one out!!!
A very dear friend of mine said: from one control freak to another, let him go do what he needs to do. So I give the same advice to you. Also, there is a book called Control Freak that was awesome. It explains why we are controlling, and looking to get at the root of the reason. It also gives useful tips on how to try to curb the desire.
If you are controlling, you may always have the inclination to be controlling. I still do. Its about how to make sure you recognize the signs, and do something else until the feeling passes.
And it will pass.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
