Questions on DB when separated

[sportsfan]

Hi Lola. What you wrote makes so much sense. Are you in my head? LOL I definitely have control issues. I hate surprises, even the good ones. Always have. I don't like to be in the dark. It is even the nature of my job that I know and anticipate everything. You echoed everything my sister said to do as well. I am exercising more and trying to take care of myself. I am doing a much better job of managing my stress now that I made the decision to let the past go. How can I make sure H realizes this? Also, a lot of the issue is not with me, but with himself. He is guilt-ridden and can't forgive himself. I told him I have forgiven him and that he should forgive himself.

I was out this morning at an appointment with my counselor and H called. All he said was yes, he got a new phone and will be getting a rebate. He also said he will call me back later with the new phone number because he didn't remember the new number off the top of his head. I don't care that he got a new phone or what it cost. I just wonder why he got a new one.

My C said that I should implement DB, but that I should tell H that I am here if he needs me since H is working on issues having nothing to do with me and to say nothing else. I don't know about that one. C is not familiar with DB so I educated him on that.

Your replies are helping to give me the strength I so need right now. A million thanks!