So so sorry to see you here. It really hurts and is a terrible thing to be going through. You ask:
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My question is, what is up with this and why is he so mad that I filed? He is the one who wants out, I'm just giving it to him. I just dont get it, but I'm staying in NC anyway. _________________________
My answer is that it doesn't really matter WHY he does what he does. You will never really know, anyway. It is probably a reaction to you setting some boundaries and taking control of the situation.
Good for you!
My advice to you is to continue to stay in NC...drop the rope and do whatever you possibly can to bring some joy and interest into your life. You need to focus on YOU. Find something that can keep you legitimately busy, a hobby or time with friends. Get a massage. Exercise. Go for a walk. Rent a sad movie and cry if you need to get it all out.
Also PROTECT YOURSELF!
His antics with the money shows that he is unstable. You need to document everything and make sure you have a lawyer you can work with. If he is using marital assets to fund a party lifestyle you can and should document everything and get some kind of separation agreement in order.
Also, and I hate to say it, but you need to see a doctor and get checked for STD if there was any contact w/ STBXH while he was seeing OW.
This part of the process is the absolute worst, I know. But I promise it will get better and you will get stronger with time. You need to do everything you can to take care of yourself and make sure you are strong for what lies ahead. I really recommend getting a massage, also. It is great for stress and adds the element of human touch to a life that is probably lacking that at this point in time.
Good luck, SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
