How do you find a local counsellor who uses a DB philosopy? I have my W agreeing (in principal anyways) to see a marriage counsellor instead of a separation/divource counsellor but am nervous as to which one to choose. I am in the process of becoming a police constable and nervous about how this instability in my home life will affect my applications and thereofore wanting as much annonimity as possible (they can check into my medical records but not sure about this and feel us trying to work things out versus trying to end things is viewed as working out problems and therefore more stable, but not sure). Anyways I want to find someone we can see together who believes in or follows as closely as possible the DB style versus the old therapys Michele talks about in her book. I don't know where to start as my family doctor didn't really give much help and not sure how to find the right person to help me bust my W's separation choice. We live in Southern Ontario, Canada and any help or advice would be tremendously appreciated. I am hopeful and optomistic but feel all alone and not sure what to do or where to turn. Without Michele's book, Divorce Busting, I don't know where I would be at right now and am hoping with everything I am I/we can fix this with the help of a professional. I desperatly need help, please!
