But putting forth misleading information under the guise of pacifying the highly agitated newcomers is not the way to go.
Exactly and this is what I feel what happens. I would rather know the truth from the beginning. I know most newcomers (as I was) are not ready to hear the truth but it doesn't mean we fill their heads with misleading information.
However, I don't think all of the info on the MLC resources thread is inaccurate. I think there is a wealth of information on there as well, i.e. Snodderly's work. She shared her experiences and did her research. However, like IMP suggests, don't get to caught up in it, it's a guidline, not a bible.
One of the great things about this site is there are different forums to join. To me, the healthiest being the Surviving the Big D. Most of the people you find over there have accepted the end of their M and are just enjoying life. They may not have saved their marriages but they saved themselves.
I think a lot of the people in the other forums (not all) like the MLC forum may be in denial, including me. We hold onto that little bit of hope, but yet, that little bit of holding on wears us down. I know I for one need to learn to accept that my M is just over. I am almost there but not quite just yet. Maybe when the papers are signed it will help me.
All I know is that I don't want newcomers to be lead down the same path I was in the beginning.
Bill you are right, we don't need to fear truth and reality because in the long run it's the healthier way to go.
