Well they locked my last thread, so here we are. I'm not sure what H is going to do and the reality is, there is nothing I can do about it either. Our LS has already shown up on the Superior Ct. website here and I mentioned it to H this morning, his reply was..."now I'm free to move in with her." To which I replied, "Do what you have to do as will I." He wanted to know what that meant and I reminded him that if that is the case, I'm done. Its just that simple. He then backs off and says that he has no plans to get a place and if he says hes not going to live with her it'll be a lie and if he says he is going to, it'll be a lie. I had to bite my tongue almost completely off to keep from saying..."isn't everything you say a lie?" but I didn't!
His idea of doing a paternity test is getting one of those kits and swabbing the inside of this baby's mouth behind her back...WTF? So much for hes a man and in control of his R. He is so damn delusional, its getting to be kind of funny. If it weren't so damn sad, it would be funny, I guess.
I tend to agree with what everyone who posted on my last thread said. I think he is hedging his bets and a lot of what he does will depend on if this baby is his or not. I think most of this is due to his addiction and she feeds it and makes it ok for him to be sick...I won't. I still think its all going to get really ugly before its all said and done, but ultimately its just not my problem.
I can try and anyalyze this from now til' the cows come home and I'll never get it. Its his journey and he needs to take it his way. I have some things to work on myself and I just can't worry on this anymore. Making myself crazy about it only affects me. When and if he ever faces his addiction then things might change, until then, they will remain what they are now. C'est la vie. I can honestly say though, that it truly offends me that he doesn't think that leaving his kids (that he knows are his) to go and be with someone else and raise a kid that may not be his and a child that is definately not his, is bad. Though if I was inviting some man to come and raise them, I would be the anti-christ.
Thanks to all of you for posting your thoughts, it does me good to have people that aren't quite so close to the situation read it for me as I tend to get bogged down in the details. I talked to MIL last night and she thinks that it may come down to them moving in together, but she did say that they don't spend nearly the time together that they used to. WHATEVER!!!!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
