And hence....IMP's very strong post (can't remember where) on the downside to getting too caught up in the MLC resources offered at the top of the page.
This site is about saving marriages. Period. We all know that, because we all came here to do just that.
But putting forth misleading information under the guise of pacifying the highly agitated newcomers is not the way to go.
MrsH and others are more than justified to ask "What the heck?" when they've been told something over and over again, only to find that it is simply not true in their story.
Many of those resources are extremely valuable in terms of educating people on what kinds of things to expect and what kinds of things they can do to make it through this time. But perhaps its time we emphasized the fact that there are NO set timelines, that OM/OW are NOT always bandaids, that OM/OW are not always low life creatures, and that spouses do NOT regularly choose to reconcile after burning so many bridges.
We don't need to fear truth and reality.
I personally want to KNOW rather than be surprised.
Share your experiences, but don't share statistics that you cannot back up with actual research studies.
The situations that bring us here are painful enough.
Blessings,
Bill
Last edited by Bworl; 07/18/0804:14 PM.
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
