One of the serious problems with this board is that some people seem to think that if you say something often enough it must be true.
I agree. I have seen very few people since I have been here that have left because they are back together with their spouse. I feel like saying that is giving people false hope.
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It's bad enough when posters reassure each other authoritatively that "affairs last 2 years" and "she's just a bandaid for his/her mental illness"
This too I agree with. I remember when I first came to the boards, everyone told me their affair wouldn't last long, she was just a bandaid, he would be back around 18 months, blah, blah, blah....Well he has been gone for 2 years now, is still with the ow (2 1/2 years) and I no longer believe she is just a bandaid. Bandaids don't last that long.
I don't want to feed any newcomers with the same bs lines I was fed with because those bs lines ended up making me feel like a failure because it didn't come true in my sitch. Those bs lines are just a bandaid themselves. I am not blaming anyone for feeding me those lines, it was just something that they truley believed themselves because somewhere along the line someone came up with those bs lines. There seems to be no proof to back any of it up.
