(((Lola))) thank you so much for thinking about me. I agree with what you've said, and I am such a woman! H can't cope with that and has never been able to cope with 'reactions'. So, if I don't react it makes him feel safer. It is difficult when he pushes me but as I said in an earlier post most of the time he does things and hasn't a clue what the fall out will be. This scares him so if I can just be consistent in my new approach hopefully I will have some success.
I do find breathing really helpful, it often feels that if you just stop and breath then the weight on your shoulders lessens.
