You know, Julia, I have been thinking a little on your sitch, and the recent email. I have come up with this:

Women have a great need to talk to their friends about everything. We are more emotional by nature, and need the reassurance we are doing the right thing. I think that is why statistics show that women tend to file D more than men...we get advice from everyone, and everyone has an opinion.

Men, on the other hand, like to handle things on their own. They really don't discuss their R/R problems with the guys, but choose to mull it over in their own heads until they have an answer.

This may be why your H was recluctant to talk about the events that have occurred between the two of you. He is still trying to mull it over in his head. It was very unexpected, and when you have one idea in your head, and all of a sudden the exact opposite happens, we as women ask everyone "what did that mean???" while I believe men ask themselves "what did that mean?
" So I wouldn't take it to heart that he told your friend nothing is going on. He is still trying to figure it out himself.

(((Julia))) Breath and think peaceful thoughts. It will work out just fine. \:\)

Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..