After a busy day and evening, I arrived home to find an email from spouse detailing how inappropriate he felt something I did was.
My first thought was.. Not this behavior from him again (me being defensive but now aware of his methods).. followed by.. Better CYA to my lawyer (me defensive again). A very distant thought was to DB the note.. to validate his concerns, assure him there was no ill intent.
Upon reflection that sounds good, though I don't want to interact with him anymore. Protecting myself from him feels right. But is it the best thing to do. I mean, if I'm hiding from him, how has my life changed for the better?
Being able to say.. Hey, I can hear what you're saying (even if I think part of what you're doing is making a mountain out of a molehill), can understand where you're coming from. No problem, I can work with that. That puts things in perspective for me.
Being able to see beyond my own anxieties is a good thing. Learning to communicate during difficult periods is great. And being able to do it without shredding myself is the way to go. If it hurts me, I'm not doing it. If it helps me then it's a go.
It's not about having something to prove. It's about moving forward.
