1 year is unbelievable. Here it is 30 days...no separation requirements..no fault.
I know 2 months seems like an eternity, but it does get easier. In the beginning of all this I was a long way away from my family too, which I think makes it that much harder. I remember how much I hated the weekends because I was so alone...I would have rather been at work (can't imagine hating weekends now!).
The trip should be a good break for you. I was on a business trip last week and it was a great break from reality.
I hope the house thing works out like you want....not sure if I know what you want though lol. You may not even know what you want at this point, we sometimes just have to live day by day.
1 year is unbelievable. Here it is 30 days...no separation requirements..no fault.
I know 2 months seems like an eternity, but it does get easier. In the beginning of all this I was a long way away from my family too, which I think makes it that much harder. I remember how much I hated the weekends because I was so alone...I would have rather been at work (can't imagine hating weekends now!).
The trip should be a good break for you. I was on a business trip last week and it was a great break from reality.
I hope the house thing works out like you want....not sure if I know what you want though lol. You may not even know what you want at this point, we sometimes just have to live day by day.
30 days? Wowsers.. that's too quick.. 1 year they really want you to think about it i guess.. or the person who filed.
Yeah i don't know what i want in regards to the house, i really don't.. that's why i have to do day to day.. not an option any other way or i would possible go mad!
Trip might not even happen.. thing's don't necessarily look good for accomodations right now.. they swicthed me from Washington state to Alaska today..
Isn't that crazy? My lawyer said years ago you could file at 8am and be D by 5pm!! He said they had to change it to 30 days for a "cooling off" period because people were coming in from different states just to get D!
The 1 year requirement really buys you some time. A lot can happen in a year. I would say don't rush anything on the house unless you just get a really good deal.
Too bad about the trip, but maybe things will work out.
Isn't that crazy? My lawyer said years ago you could file at 8am and be D by 5pm!! He said they had to change it to 30 days for a "cooling off" period because people were coming in from different states just to get D!
The 1 year requirement really buys you some time. A lot can happen in a year. I would say don't rush anything on the house unless you just get a really good deal.
Too bad about the trip, but maybe things will work out.
That's insane.. where are you?
Yes it takes a total of 1 year from the time of filing to finalize ..
I will not do anything (we won't) rash , if the price isn't right we won't do it..W says she is willing to take a loss.. I am not.. but we shall see
At this time I don't even know what i want, some days i feel like F*** it..i am done, others when we go for walks with the dogs or watch movies etc.. i find we get along so very well..
I know she is very hurt..and time is my friend, guess we shall see..
All i know is i will get out alot of frustrations when i see my personal trainer tonight
I am in AL. H and I lived in TX and he filed then backed out...takes 60 days there, but at the last minute he couldn't go through with it. I moved here because I got a better job and closer to my family. He followed me here shortly after.....broke my trust again, then I filed.
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At this time I don't even know what i want, some days i feel like F*** it..i am done, others when we go for walks with the dogs or watch movies etc.. i find we get along so very well..
I went back and forth like this a lot after the initial shock. I think that is one reason it is important to focus on yourself and not so much on the R right now. You will figure out what you want, and if you decide your done...then I think you'll know. The 48 hour rule is very important to remember.
Exercise is a great release, glad to see you are really getting into that.
I went back and forth like this a lot after the initial shock. I think that is one reason it is important to focus on yourself and not so much on the R right now. You will figure out what you want, and if you decide your done...then I think you'll know. The 48 hour rule is very important to remember.
Exercise is a great release, glad to see you are really getting into that.
Hang in there.
I am going to a concert tomorrow, i think after that I will sleep at my buddies house.. won't call w, she will likely wonder where the heck i am.. bad call? then saturday will come, she cuts my hair saturday.. after that i olikely won't see her for a week if my business trip happens.. that will be a test, as i don't plan on calling/texting/emailing her at all that week.. if she does, i will reply, but i for sure will not initiate, i have learnt not to.
Exercise is grear, i went for nearly 2 hours again tonight..
You really think if i think i am done, i will know? I have a feeling if we sell the house and move apart, it truly will be "done"
I went back and forth like this a lot after the initial shock. I think that is one reason it is important to focus on yourself and not so much on the R right now. You will figure out what you want, and if you decide your done...then I think you'll know. The 48 hour rule is very important to remember.
Exercise is a great release, glad to see you are really getting into that.
Hang in there.
I am going to a concert tomorrow, i think after that I will sleep at my buddies house.. won't call w, she will likely wonder where the heck i am.. bad call? then saturday will come, she cuts my hair saturday.. after that i olikely won't see her for a week if my business trip happens.. that will be a test, as i don't plan on calling/texting/emailing her at all that week.. if she does, i will reply, but i for sure will not initiate, i have learnt not to.
Exercise is grear, i went for nearly 2 hours again tonight..
You really think if i think i am done, i will know? I have a feeling if we sell the house and move apart, it truly will be "done"
well i had several dreams of my w last night, it's unusual because i don't really remember my dreams. But i do remember her coming and giving me a big kiss , and it seemed so so real... weird..
Concert sounds fun. I guess not comeing home is ok...but if you think she would be worried about you it may just be best to let her know you aren't coming home. You don't necessarily have to tell her where you will be.....just if she might worry though, otherwise I don't think it is a bad idea.
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You really think if i think i am done, i will know? I have a feeling if we sell the house and move apart, it truly will be "done"
I think you will know when you have hit your breaking point. I thought it would truly be done with my H and I when I left TX. He had filed and everything was already split, the house was on the marker. He followed me here 4 months later. You never know. Just worry about yourself right now. Don't try to analyze it.
I had the problem with the dreams throughout my situation. I hated to be awake because I was thinking about it and I hated to be asleep because I was dreaming about it. Mine seemed to be very vivid and I always remembered. I am not sure what to do about them, but mine seemed to fade over time.
Concert sounds fun. I guess not comeing home is ok...but if you think she would be worried about you it may just be best to let her know you aren't coming home. You don't necessarily have to tell her where you will be.....just if she might worry though, otherwise I don't think it is a bad idea.
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You really think if i think i am done, i will know? I have a feeling if we sell the house and move apart, it truly will be "done"
I think you will know when you have hit your breaking point. I thought it would truly be done with my H and I when I left TX. He had filed and everything was already split, the house was on the marker. He followed me here 4 months later. You never know. Just worry about yourself right now. Don't try to analyze it.
I had the problem with the dreams throughout my situation. I hated to be awake because I was thinking about it and I hated to be asleep because I was dreaming about it. Mine seemed to be very vivid and I always remembered. I am not sure what to do about them, but mine seemed to fade over time.
Any new on the trip?
I just came home after the show, drove a friend a few places he wanted to go for a beer (i drank a beer then swicthed to diet pop..ugh)
Someone kicked the mirror off my vehicle last night, like i needed that.. so frustrating.
the trip is on, i leave Monday morning for 5 days..
As for breaking point , i really don't know at this point what's what, i just keep going day to day, i haven't really seen W inb a few days.. and if i don't see her tonight after i get back from dinner with my friends, i will not likely see her until next week..
Keep in mind for 1 1/2 years i worked 3 hours away, so she is "somewhat" used to being away for me.. might play against me i don't know
