I haven't read your earlier post but I know what you are going thru. I don't know how to attach my other threads but I was in newcomers for a while & now in midlife if you get a chance to read.
I did lots of snooping, even got into my H's work emails which was how he was communicating with OW, he threatened criminal charges against me. Nothing became of that, he just wanted me to do what he wanted & I didn't. I also hired a PI, since the OW was in another state I found out more than they did but they had a report run on her. She is 1 1/2 years older than my H, has been M at least 3 times & chased after a M man & I'm sure he is not the first she has done this too. She even sent me a thank you email for my H & for not sueing her, the letter is in some of my other threads around April 14th 2008. We are D, he quit an excellent job & moved to another state with this woman that he doesn't really know except via phone & email. He met her in June of 2007 on a scuba diving trip.
My lawyer wanted some proof & I got it for him. I even got airlines to tell me his flight info when he went out there. He got a PO box & new credit cards but I got the numbers & got all kinds of money that he spent on her for my lawyer. We didn't have to use the info I got so I don't think my H knew it.
I know it's MLC, he would never treat me like he did. I got him on tape when he cussed me out, he knew about it later on. He also discovered I was snooping, he put a lock on the guest bedroom door. I wrote him a letter & told him lots of things & I also asked him how he could look at himself in the mirror. I also told him that he wasn't being himself with OW & that she was using him.
I don't recommend all of this, I did this before I found this site. I'm so happy I've found this & we are all here for each other.
I'm sorry I wrote so much, I just tried to give you a brief description of my sitch. Sorry everyone who has already read this. I don't know how to attach threads.
