FLTC: You know, I remember reading this when my H first left. And I said to him "Our kids will never recover from this. How can you do this to them, neer mind me?" His glib response: "The kids will bounce back. Kids are resilient". Hmmm...
It never got better. Like so many walkaway spouses here - mine concentrated on his own happiness and his own selfish pursuits. His kids took a backseat to all of it.
Yes, I read in DB and DR that we are connected to them always when we have children together. That we will become grandparents on the same day. As much as we wish they would disappear - it is not likely going to happen. If I had to go back and do it over again - I would try to co-parent in a less destructive manner. I did not cause this problem, but I do realize that I could have done better to minimize the damage.
Your point is well taken. Newbies could take notes here.
