It took me awhile, BUT my H did nothing to confront me. If he had confronted me, as hard as it would have been, I would have had to face things sooner. Face what I was doing. He had made it easy on me. Too easy. If he could have been kind, but make me face what I did unjudgementally right away I would have come around sooner to wanting to try again. I knew that is what I wanted to do, but I needed him to show me that.
Hallelujah! SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS!!![/
Seriously, WDID, I think you should start a thread on this. Call it "What My Betrayed Spouse Could Have Done to Keep Me" or something.