I was home yesterday when W came by after work. She had no real reason to as D was staying with me . I was polite ,however I was still finishing off some work so carried on with that , W made us both a coffee and I think was wanting someone to pay attention but D was messaging her friends on MSN or something S was in his room playing Guitar and I was working. W obviously felt left out , made an excuse and left without finishing her coffee.
I think this was a good thing , she can see the family functions well without her , she has to understand that she was the one who ultimatley opted out .