1. It is guidance and advice on people having marital problems or for FRIENDS or FAMILY who KNOW someone having problems. LISTEN to Michele's EVERY WORD. Don't quit the video until you have watched the WHOLE THING.
2. Take notes if you want. Share it with your pastor. ONLY listen to friends who are behaving the way michele reccomends people to - listen to people who tell you NOT to give up, listen to people who tell you marriage is worth fighting for.
IGNORE people who tell you to give up. They are just immature and ignorant about what it takes to make a long term investment pay off...marriage is one big piano lesson, it takes YEARS to sound and feel good...don't quit just because it has gotten hard and you are scared. That's when you try harder.
Marriage troubles are your opportunity to find religious context in your life. When your wife starts to stray, dont give up on her, carry the cross for her and love her while you bear the burden. Jesus did it, and this is your cross too.
We all have to carry people when they are down, and we trust and hope that they will do the same for us. That is what makes community and marriage work.
