her sister tells me that although she (her sister) would like us to stay together, dragging this D out as long as possible is just going to hurt her and I more. however our pastor tells me if i love her and am committed, to fight to the end. ???
1. Don't trust her sister, her sister is going to sympathize her HER not you, and she is not trained in marriage counselling, furthermore she's NOT likely mature enough to understand how difficult marriage is and what it takes to make one work.
2. When marriage gets tough, you roll up your sleeves, you dont run away. Her sister likley has the SAME PROBLEMS emotionally that your WIFE does...why would you listen to someone with likley similar hang ups?
3. Listen to someone TRAINED in counselling others who has experience in life and marriage and understands that when things get difficult you work harder, you don't run away.
Have you ever tried to learn to play piano, or dance, or do anything that required patience, hard work, time, and a LOT OF PRACTICE through trial and error?
Marriage is like one LONG piano lesson. Don't give up just becuase it is hard or becuase something doesn't sound right, it gets EASIER and feels BETTER with practice.
your kids will want to quit music lessons too, this happens often..are you gonna say "oh its hard, ok, give up, i dont want you unhappy." of course not...you tell them to work hard and they will not regret it...trust, patience, and time buster.
IGNORE her sister.. How old is her sister? Is her sister married? Has her sister read divorce busitng, or ANY BOOK on MARRIAGE SCIENCE or COUNSELLING? Do you konw pastors are TRAINED in that sort of thing?
If your car was broke would you listen to your wife's sister or your auto mechanic?
Ignore her sister...listen to someone trained in the content.
