Hi. I've posted in the newcomers forum, but thought I would pose this question to you all in this forum. If you want background, my thread is called "Don't Even Know Where to Begin".

My H left on Saturday. Our MC said to have no contact except for emergencies and a once a week meeting for dinner or whatever. The purpose of the separation is for H to determine if our M is really what he wants. To see if he misses me.

How can I show changes in myself when our contact is so limited? How do I act in our MC sessions? I have been a basket case for the last 2 years, but made a conscious decision to turn things around and then he left. He hasn't lived with the "new" me so how can he miss me? I need your advice please.


Me - Faithful wife
H - WAH
Bomb: Fall/2009 - PA/EA with OW for 1 year
Both in our early 40's
M - 16 years w/ no kids
T - 21 years
Separated since July of 2008 - H living with his mother