One of the reasons I have not told my family about my sitch is because I don't want to have to handle what you had to do with your sister today. They will mean well and only want the best for me, but my Mother would be contacting me ALL the time and I would be put in the position of defending the person who is trying to walk out on me. Besides my hope is that my W and I will decide on reconcilliation and the fewer family members that know what we went through the less chance of hurt feelings afterwards and other relationships that have to be healed - if that makes sense.
I like what you have stated in the legal papers about the M not being broken and can be reconcilled. I plan on doing the same if my W ever files for the D. I'm not just going sign papers like I agree with everything.
Did he tell you when he went to see his L to file his petition? If he did then you could tell him you are going, but I don't think you necessarily owe it to him.
I would not ask him if he told his parents - let him bring that subject up. If he does tell you that he did, then I'd ask him why he felt the need to? Let him give the explanation. I still wouldn't initiate any R talk - keep your DBing going. You have really been making headway and it gives me a lot of encouragement for my own sitch. Good luck tonight! S4H
