I am trying so hard to stop thinking about her and what she is doing at certain points of the day, like when I have my son I tell myself she is with OM. it does me no good. Should I avoid contact with OM at all costs ? I know where he lives and works, his screen name on AOL, his cell phone number, etc. instinct tells me it will do no good, and he will run and tell W and she will think i'm a sobbing, wallowing mess or something to that effect.
1. Don't waste your time talking to OM. Your wife likely won't like that.
2. If you are having negative thoughts, find something to do that will occupy your mind. Find some friends, play basketball, etc...get BUSY if you are feeling haunted.
3. The OM is looking for anything you do to screw your marriage up further, DON'T give him ammunition. He's watching what you do.
