I see it in her definitely. I still see hope. Her hesitation. Her crying. Her stalling of the papers. The lying and hiding....If she felt confident about it, she wouldn't be hiding things.
It took me awhile, BUT my H did nothing to confront me. If he had confronted me, as hard as it would have been, I would have had to face things sooner. Face what I was doing. He had made it easy on me. Too easy. If he could have been kind, but make me face what I did unjudgementally right away I would have come around sooner to wanting to try again. I knew that is what I wanted to do, but I needed him to show me that. You can't give up on her. My H never did. Ever. Even when I wanted him to. I wanted him to make it easier on me to leave, to give me an excuse, make it right (yours said this to). But, thank God he didn't.
I think another talk is good. The one you had before sounded heated. If you want to realllllly talk to her, you need to try to understand her and talk her through things without getting her defenses up. Everything she says she is feeling, but she knows something is not right. Something does not feel right. She knows she should not leave her marriage for someone else whether you guys make it or not. If she leaves her marriage it should be for her only and she should leave knowing she would be happier all by herself rather than being with you. She cannot think of you when she is with someone else. Obviously.
