For the Guy with kids and a WW 6

[hopeful4her]

I am home. Alone. I suppose roomie took D's to go swimming. I called just after I left work. No answer. I left no message. She called 10 minutes later.

"Hello?"
"Hi"
"I just wanted to find out if ya'll are going to eat out or at home?"
"We're going to eat at home."
"Ok, I'm on my way home. I'll get started cooking."
"Ok."
"Bye."

Very short. I want to talk to her. I said a few posts ago that I know that it will be me to have to keep up an R with her. Not catering to her. I find myself wanting her to expand on why she told me she can't talk to me. Belittling her? I refuse to have that relationship that she and her ex have.

I have the two routes to take. While she is still here at home. I can try to maintain the R by talking to her. Stay away from R talk. Try to get her to open up. TRY that is. Stay away from OM talk. I really think she is still confused. I know I am. I shouldn't be, because she has told me. But am I supposed to believe her?

I can't help thinking about the ones that get back together. Later. She has admitted to me before of the possibility. I see her defensivness. I want to sit her down and not talk at her. Talk to her. I'm going to try again. See what it brings. Thats why she she told the L to hold off on papers. She wants to see. Maybe after the 7 months. I know I am capable of drawing her out. The good in her. At least with me.

If not, then I know that I went all the way to the end.

Like I said, I am not going down without a fight. At least as long as she is here.

Is that wrong? I just knew that me pointing out things last night would get me nowhere. I knew I was not going to hear what I wanted to hear.

I know I'm hanging on. Kicking and screaming.

Wdid, you can see it in her, don't you. She just isn't going to realize it until she is moved out. And she IS going to have to go. She is weak. Like you were. It took you a while, but you realized.