I am sure that DR, DB and other books will teach me to combat this "cancer" but this kind of cancer is one that she doesn't want treated. I pretend as has been mentioned here that she is ill and needs to be cared for, but when she has an hour of free time or so, is there a way to get her to WANT to spend it with me instead of him ? If i don't invite her to do something, she won't invite me \:\( just back off ?

2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF

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