H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

[happycamper]

I think they thought that as parents they might be able to persuade us out of separating, and because we were very settled in our decision they almost took that as 'rebellion'. I think they are angry because we are rejecting their advice.

They probably 'know' that H is the 'bad' one out of the two of us, and I am the 'good' one, I think they think H has brainwashed me into going along with a D!

It's not their fault - we have the vital piece of the jigsaw and we are witholding it from them for their own good.