Thing is, even if H was seeing someone else at the moment, that wouldn't be the reason. The reason is H's issues.
Exactly right.
Originally Posted By: happycamper
PILs just haven't given us a chance. Anything we say was just thrown out the window. When I said about the support I had put in place to help the children, MIL just rubbished it and said that they would be devastated. They just want us to be the bad guys and any good we're doing is void.
Originally Posted By: iamlost
Their anger at your H sounds like intuition. Do they have any clue that your husband was abused?
Nope, none. They don't know anything about him. They think the worst he could do is have an affair. Not multiple affairs, multiple one-night stands, sex addiction (even H is coming round to that), group sex, S&M clubs, threesomes with married couples in specialist 'clubs', coke habit, sex for money with his dealer, dominatrix sessions, internet chat rooms, phone sex with strangers, and over �20000 debts!
But you guys know, and that helps me
Hmmm, I'll bet they suspect more than you think. Their anger at you both, especially him, is kind of unusual. I see parents taking one side or the other, but not usually just straight-up anger at both H and W. Their anger could be their own guilt at suspecting how messed up their son was and doing nothing to help or try to figure out why he was.
There's nothing you can do for how they feel, like you said you're just going to have to ride it out. If there is any justice in the world, someday they will see the tremendous sacrifices that you made to protect them.
And if they don't, all of us here certainly do.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
