But to you I would ask, because this is the type of discussion I enjoy bringing out in people....being that you are hetero, even to a fault...can you explain why a hetero man would enjoy porn which includes men with huge members? I have always thought that straight men would understand that it is at least a tiny bit non-straight for them to enjoy seeing a big' ol stick in porn.
The answer is actually an easy one: transference, in the context of a fantasy. While watching that kind of porn, the guy is fantasizing that it is HIM that is taking that girl, and of course, he wants to take her with a fantasy-sized member! At the least, the guy is wishing that it was him, even if he isn't fantasizing at that moment: he's identifying with the guy in the film.
I guess I'll also add that most healthy folks need to be able to find their own genitalia, and those of their own sex, appealing and perhaps even beautiful, WITHOUT being sexually attracted to the owner. Call it appreciation, rather than sexual attraction. Thus, I can admire a well-built male member, or even think of it as magnificent in size and form, but NOT feel any desire to do anything sexual with it. So while I said above that I don't understand my wife's sexual attraction to men or their tools, I can still appreciate or admire the beauty and the form of some of them.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
