First of all, do you have a current thread? It would be great for you to start one so you can get input from everyone on the board!
Secondly, I think you should file if you think it is a last resort. Do you think it is? Honey, I know how you feel...my H has not moved closer to returning either and has recently broached the Divorce subject. I am pretty certain he has someone else---don't think it is the original OW and I don't know which one this is--and dodn't care either. He has moved FAR, FAR AWAY from me now...doesn't even talk to me anymore...just sends e-mails and always about the bills only. He has never talked about our R or how to fix it or anything.
Do you really want a divorce? Only you can answer that question. Would divorce bring YOU peace? If you have to ask, then I don't think it is time for you...because I have heard that when you get there you 'know'. It is so crystal clear apparently...
Honey, wish I could tell you something more...but I am in the same boat as you are...and I don't want to file. I want HIM to file. I have made my decision about that.
As for the R b/w your H and your D16...well, that is tough...I don't have kids so I am no expert there...but you need to make sure that your daughter's feelings are validated as well. She has been hurt as well. Have you read up on any books regarding this type of situation?
Just ask God to show you the way...and soon you will find your answer...
Keep in touch!
Hugs, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
