The most helpful advice I’ve gotten so far is to accept that this R is over. That’s harsh but it is, and you don’t want it back. Your M is not over and you want the chance to build a new R, but it won’t be the same one and that is a good thing.
that helped me see it that way. I'm so grateful to you.
Letting go of my M means being able to let go of all the hurt and pain that has occurred, and start over again. I NEED that, because I've been drowning in pain. And I know that all of the ridiculous things my H has done has been because he has been drowning in pain, too. We both can't go on like this any longer, so our M has to die, and a new R has to be reborn (hopefully).
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
