Accepting was a key thing here, I suspect. I think a lot of the people that we care for that we are experiencing this pain feel that they are not accepted.
I know for one, my W has told me flat out that I didn't accept her. I made the mistake at first of TELLING her that I did, but that I just failed to do it in a way that she would recognize it. You seemed to have DONE it through your actions. Congrats.
I hope I can get there just like you have
Me: 30 W: 27 Married: 9/2007 ILUBNILWU: 1/2008 W moved out 5/24/2008 W suicide 8/25/2009