I think that her not having R talks is a good thing, since you already know where you stand at this moment. I think if she decides to open up at some point, that would be an indication of change on her part. It's like waiting for a flower to bloom, you just have to wait.
I just had to have several R talks with my H, for necessary reasons, and they never end up the way I intend them to, it's like a floodgate of emotion spills out from both of you. A lot of old hurts are brought up, both sides try to justify their actions, it's not often pretty, and it could set you back. Just my 2 cents.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
