Sending positive vibes to my H!

[pisces9]

well- i think he got to this pint by me being calm, cool, happy and collected every time we interacted. he said initially he was dead set against this working...i think if i had been angry , uncontrollably crying or pursuing in any way he could have used that to stop his growth...but it forced him to face his own sh*t...he said he realized he was blaming me for everything...he said he stopped telling anyone about whats going on and he has been self reflecting a lot and in a journal..i validated what he said very quietly and said thats nice/amazing...and i like to talk about my stuff whereas you (he) may not do it that way- everyone is different..i think im just showing him that I ACCEPT him and however he does EVERYTHING is ok to me..when he said he was annoyed at me for the smallest things i was doing- i said thanks for sharing that bc i felt it from you....another way to accept…

i guess overall why he was able to get to the point of reflecting was that he had no other choice bc i was giving him all good things....it really out a damper on his pity party..he he he
hope this helps/answers your question...