You and Baggy are the poster boys for guys who GET IT. And by that I mean, (please - no one else can take offense to this, ok?) but what I mean is, there is nothing attractive about a man who thinks that his lack of sex in his marriage is the *reason* he is becoming less of a man. By GETTING IT, you have realized that by being MORE of a man, you will become more attractive in general, and spefically to your wives.
No offense taken but I've got to speak up for all us less than perfect poster boys. When the sex goes away in your marriage you feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you. At a time in your life when you have married and are ready to settle down and start to grow and become more of a man, you find yourself flat on your back wondering "what in the hell happened?" You feel like, "why is this happening to me, I'm the same person I've always been, why does she not love me anymore?"
I'm not making any excuses here but honestly it is very disorienting and you don't know what to do. You thought you had secured your lover for life and no longer have to concentrate on getting sex. Instead your whole focus is now on sex because it is all you can think about anymore. Like S&A says every other part of your life then suffers. For the very weak it causes their marriage to implode. Add in just the daily grind of working and stuff and who has time to figure it out on their own. It is very hard thing to do to take a good look at yourself when your life seems to be falling apart around you.
