When my H had his affair almost 2 years ago, he lost a lot of weight to look good for her. His thinness did not appeal to me because I knew it was for her. Now that he's a happily married man, he's put the pounds back on. I look at him, and I know he has gained at least 30 pounds, and he's still the same person. The weight makes no difference at all. Actually, I like him better because I know that he is content and relaxed and not starving himself to look good for outside people. I can't imagine how 40 pounds on a spouse can possibly take away another person's happiness. I think that is a lot of BS.
