All settled in 250 miles apart

[TwinDad]

I do mean R talks and wish she would open up, but it has to be on here own. I have not iniated any conversations on the subject since i really decided to do the friends thing 3 weeks ago. and this has proven results because she has contacted me twice since that. baby steps right!!

JWS,

Go with what works, like you have been. In the early part of the sep I had pictured this magical moment where we just got together sorted out the past, discussed where we went wrong, decided how we are going to do better in the future....etc, etc, etc....you get the idea. Now after being together again for about 6-7 weeks and things are going very well, I am still applying the DB principals. Honestly I don't know if we will ever have another R talk about what has happened again. What we are doing is showing through our actions how that really isn't necessary. Once thing that has helped me is to accept how there won't be an R talk....and I am good with that. All we can do is go forward...we both know hat got us there...and there is no point in determining who was the chicken adn who was the egg and which one came first.

Baby Steps are important. The nice thing I like about baby steps is once you start getting them (and you don't have any visible backslides) then the steps tend to get bigger and bigger.