WAW#10 Feather Ruffle

[Neilh23]

Phil-
i've been keeping on your sitch...... and i have a few thoughts...

AmyC is right on track here...how've your parents (step too) influenced your views on things? I know in my sitch, my parents have had a tremendous influence on me, both good AND bad.....

AS for your W's behavior......perhaps someone has already said this to you, but here goes.....

You are only enabling her behavior by thinking that it's still 'our house' and 'our dryer'.....She obviously does not want an "US" so why continue to think that way? the more you enable her, the more she's oging to walk all over you and not pay attention to your boundaries.

i know it's difficult when the woman you love is acting crazy. But waiting for her to "snap out of it" is not going to get your anywhere.....except worse than you already are.

changing the locks does not imply you are giving up. It's establishing a boundary. She moved out. She no longer lives there.

unless she texts you with specific questions about the kids, don't respond to them. She can find out on her own how many kids are on your D's softball team....whether you are the coach or not.

Stop enabling her.