Hey WCW - I know I'm allowing her to ask favors. As I wrote on another thread, everything was such a roller coaster that I really needed the space to leave the relationship on my own terms. Continuing to be friendly has been allowing me to do that.
Would it have been better to get pissed, storm off, and sever things? Probably - I seem to downplay what's in my best interest. But emotionally I think I needed to take it slower than the way it was going.
And for the record, I still talk to W, but I've stopped with the heart-to-hearts. Now I just listen to her talk about herself. She hasn't noticed.
More and more I see how I occupied a space similar to her father's at certain times, like now. She wants to react against my involvement in the things she does - to be totally independent. She becomes deeply resentful of any feelings of dependency, so will overreact to situations like me asking if she wants to use my bike light in order to get home (she got pissed and angry). But then she runs into a problem and rather than deal with it herself, she asks for favors. So it's a weird dynamic.
But the favors are getting fewer and she's going to start realizing that pretty quickly. By the time she gets back from field (with OM) in Sept, I will be ready to have no involvement with her, because I don't think she's a very nice person and I don't have a whole lot of respect for her anymore.
