I mean for me. I don't drink, or smoke. I have gone to bars with friends to hang out, but to meet someone.....I don't know. It seems my exW now likes going to bars for happy hour. WOW, what a 180 for her, or I think it is. When we were going out, it seemed that what she was interested in, but never really said anything. I thought I knew her, now I know that she was not the person I knew - Go figure. I thought she had more character than that.
She would rather leave our children with her mother or a baby sitter and go out to bars - What a women, mother....no dignity at all. Why can't she just call and say, "Hey, I am going out tonight - since you are having the kids tomorrow anyway, how about you pick them up tonight!?"....
I was thinking of calling her and telling her this, but then I thought.....what am I going to get out of it.....for her to say - "F...k off"....or something in that nature. I would be setting myself up for something like that if I did call....
I guess I have to just wait it out - its her life, the kids have to deal with this behavior.......which they should. She acted very inicent during divorce process......now the devil is out....
Patient.....Patient....
Cade,
First an foremost, your exW is acting upon her selfish feelings.... It is ALL about her..... She goes to the bars because she needs the attention..... It makes he feel good about herself..... She is also attempting to distance herself from you...
The sad truth is your exW is very much like my exW...... As I have written many times, I thought she was a loving, caring, compassionate and faithful Christian woman who would NEVER THINK of hurting me or our M........ I WAS WRONG......... I married her because I trusted her SO much..... I grew to love her so very deeply....
As it turns out, she was just another woman.... No character.... No integrity.... No love....... Not faithful..... She was just selfish......... The hard truth is these women showed the true colors in time... That IS who they are.......
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
