Just as an experiment last night, I made him kiss my cheek as he was leaving--and I got an exasperated face, but he did it. As for a family activity, I'm still a little stumped about that one. Not even sure I should be working on it at the moment, since when we went to fireworks together at D's request, he was such a poop about it and was as loudly silent as anyone could be.
Now you know that these two things that you tried do not work- move on and try something else.
I think your goals sound good, but I would make your personal goals your focus right now. It will bring you to a better place to work on the R goals.
