Ready to GAL...Drop the Rope...Detach..2...

[Treese]

Di....

We have said all along how similiar our sitches are and wow reading that just confirms even more...it's like I'm watching my life through you but I've already been through what you are going through now.....it's so weird...

First,our educated spouses are so educated when it comes to common sense...my H's ow also is divorced w 2 kids...we have 3...just like you...and I also have thought many times what the heck is he thinking...like does he really think that he's going to combine these families and our girls are just going to be lifelong buds....NO! my girls will never take to OW because she is the one who entered our home and stole my H and their dad...yes he had lots to do with it to but it doesn't matter...then you throw in my H's "love child" from 8 years ago and you have a huge mess...that's combining 3 families....3 torn apart families....makes me so sad....and my H's OW is my age too..she was a friend of ours from way back...another punch in the gut...she also has her own house and money....
And they WON"T admit it until they're caught....they will deny until the cows come home...because the more you bring it up the more grounds they have to say YOU were the one who drove them away....been there...

My H carried on that everything is just peachy and fun and happy...my son's baseball team didn't even know what's going on and H has been gone 6 months...yep...My H is a great actor...obviously...he laughs talks to me....sometimes will stand by me but not often....and when he jokes and I'm around...he will catch himself because Heaven forbid I would think I have a chance....

As far as taking the kids...good luck....my H just took my son overnight last week for the 1st time in 6 months....he rarely sees them....but I have to say that when he took my son I felt like part of my life had been taken from me....I'm the one who always took care of everything and my kids and when he left I was a mess....total mess. We don't have set days...we can't because of H's schedule with work...I am off all summer so I am flexible...he knows that and sometimes takes advantage of it...

i'm standing....yes....see no changes whatsoever in the past year...except that he has withdrawn from us more....we had everything and he threw it all away...

sorry for being so long winded but I wanted you to know you're definately not alone....I'm right beside you....one step at a time....

((((hugs))))
Treese