Hello di- I am so glad you are being strong and recognizing that having good friends is one of your blessings. Try to stay strong and try not to get too discouraged if the roller coaster starts up again. Just know that those lows won't last...and that you have some control because you know you can find ways to pull yourself out of those dips.
Do you know where your H is moving to? I doubt it is near the possible OW so try not to get too far ahead of what is happening now. But now that I said that, be thankful the the possible OW has an XH and children. Trust me, when you add to the mix other people's kids and their ex, it is extremely hard on a relationship. If your H does get involved with that woman, then he may eventually realize that he has jumped from the frying pan into the fire.
Who knows what fantasies are funning through your H's mind right now. He is thinking more like a teenager than an adult...full of grand delusions of all the things he can do once he gets his "freedom". Once he gets that freedom, he will probably think at first that it is great and then little by little, reality will hopefully sink in. In the meantime, you just have to let him live his life and make his choices...while you keep your boundaries.
