"i think they say that because right now, they probably are happier...no one to share things with (at least in my sitch) and that makes them happier. No conflict. Marriage represents pain to them.... why be married?"
But how much of it is a front? Especially if they are still struggling with the decisions, as it seems in my case, according to my C. I believe my W is having a great time with her new friends, lifestyle and independence but what she is doing is IMO is not sustainable/permanent and revolve around pleasurable activities (partying, drinking, hanging out) and when those activities decrease or stop, lonliness will set in, because you don't derive happiness in this manner.
I guess I am a believer that you can't find happiness through activities, materialistic things, friends, job and so forth. You find happiness within yourself with what you have. Not with what you don't have, do, or want to do/become. Maybe I've read too many self-help books :-)
Chris
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