Does a WAW want you to fight for them?

[The Wifey]

abgiles

All you can do is ask for more time. Ask her and then accept her reply. It will hurt like hell if she won't give you more time, but that doesn't mean it is the end.

I truly don't think love goes away. I think it gets hurt and bruised and scraped up a bit, but we always carry love around. I remember my very first puppy love, don't you?

Just ask her to give it more time so that you can be in a stronger place to handle what is coming. Tell her you aren't going to fight her, you just need time.

Then do the DB and DR to the very best of your ability. That and prayer will make a difference. I honestly believe you love your w. Now she has to see you in a new way and you have to become a new you.

It sucks I know that we are getting rejected by the people we love. Yet we hurt them the way we were loving them, or they weren't having their needs met, or they were reaching out and we were deaf, dumb and blind. We don't get to this point overnight and it takes time to get to anything else.

I'm praying for you and will add you to the growing list of people I pray for. I pray most of all for my h, then for God's grace to allow me to handle whatever happens, then for my friends. Every day and without fail, I ask that we be able to practice true giving to the ones we love.

I'm finding strength I didn't know I had. I always said I would walk to the gates of hell for my h. Now I am getting the chance to do just that.

This is a hell I didn't ask for, but I certainly earned.

Maybe you could ask her to meet you some place neutral? Explain that you need time to process all of this. That it is happening way too fast. That you know that she must have some compassion and feeling for you somewhere and that you have no misconceptions or expectations. You just ask that she allow you more time before she file.

I asked my h for 6 months. The day he was supposed to see his l for the first time he canceled the appointment. I hope and pray she will do the same.