Withdrawal of OM and coping

[lost3031]

Sandi, in response to whether or not I could go without seeing both men for a time, that is exactly the point that I'm getting to. I started this whole mess with the intention of discovering my own happiness, and I find that all I have been doing lately is trying to make both of them happy that I am completely forgetting myself in the process! Honestly, why is this such a natural thing for women to do - worry about others and not themselves? So now I am in the process of planning a relaxing getaway for myself (and no one else) so that I can have some breathing room. I find myself looking extremely forward to it

"This is probably something I shouldn't say b/c it doesn't really help you, but I read one time where most women that had affairs with partners other than the one they married, were much more passionate than their H. Isn't that ironic?"
- Were you trying to say that the wives were more passionate or the OM were more passionate? Because in my case, both would be accurate. I have a much higher sex drive than my H (always have) and let's just say that sex has always been so-so in our M. And yes, OM is also more passionate than H - so if I had to make a decision based on sexual compatibility, I would definitely have to go with OM. Unfortunately, sex isn't the only factor to weigh in making decisions like this and I am wise enough to realize that... if it is, in fact, the only thing I am wise about these days.

I look forward to us WAW's being able to help each other through our troubles and hopefully find some light in the storm...