Hope4us struggle, part 7

[Hope4us]

Thanks WDID. If loving actions beget loving feelings, I think we're both on the way. She's been doing more and more loving things towards me so that's encouraging.

I surmise that she's in the place you are that I read on your thread, that if she commits to our marriage she's giving up what she thinks she "could" have with OM, even though I truly believe the affair is over. I just feel like she's afraid if she tells me she wants to make the marriage work that things will return to where they were before, even though I didn't know anything was wrong. Now that I know her concerns/complaints, I'm ready to move forward so that we're BOTH happy, I just don't think she's there yet.

And I guess that's why I just have to remain consistent and stay patient. Give her more TIME. But I'm not going to wait forever.